What If Your Loved One is in a Coma or at the End of Life?
Do You Feel Helpless?
What Can You Do?
You may not have considered caregiving during a coma. There are things you can do. Find out more at www.FamilyCaregiverSummit.com Image courtesy of: grantbowles3
A Lasting Gift of Life at the End…at Death
What if a loved one is terminally ill or is in their last days of life and close to death? What should we do then? What if they are “in and out” of being conscious, or what if they are totally unconscious, perhaps in a coma?
These are some of the many questions families ask themselves when a loved one is dying. Families often feel completely helpless, wanting to help but not knowing what they can do.
There are many documented medical case studies where people “come back” from being in a coma and tell us exactly what was said and done in the room by the various visitors to their hospital bedside while they were unconscious. This happens both with short-term momentary periods of “in and out” or even long-term comas of 10-years or more.
I have witnessed many of these situations personally and sometimes the person recalls everything.
Or, what if your loved one is terminally ill, hospitalized or at home under hospice care — and is still conscious but nearing the end of life?
What Should You Do?
First of all, assume that whatever you say to the comatose or dying person can be heard by them EVEN IF they seem totally unaware — are staring blankly off into space, are “in and out” of being awake, or are unconscious.
Express your love and support for them. Tell them whatever unfinished communications you feel you need to share with them. Assume they can hear you and fully understand. Hearing is the last of our senses to leave us when we die.
Touch them. They can feel your physical touch. And they can feel the energy of your love for them in that touch.
Helping the Dying Transition from This Life
To help the dying or comatose patient, I offer something that helps them be more comfortable for however long they are still physically alive.
It only takes 5-10 minutes on the phone. A family member holds the phone to the dying person’s ear and my words help them die more peacefully.
It is very powerful and comforting. It helps them relieve their physical and emotional pain, and smooths their transition from this life.
I do this for free, “pro bono” — that means it is my gift to the dying person.
If the person can speak, we can talk longer, but if they are too tired, are “in and out” of consciousness, or are completely unconscious, that is not a problem. I can still help them.
I offer this worldwide to anyone.
(Kelvin Chin was one of the interviewees in the FamilyCaregiverSummit)